Recently an old friend of mine just moved back from being out of the country. I thought it would be a fun idea to meet up and talk about travels from afar, catch up on life. I had planned my afternoon around meeting up with her. I talked to the hubs that I would be coming home late because I wanted to meet up with my friend to grab a bite to eat. I didn't feel like having her come to my house where Andy would be a constant interruption, hell she hasn't even heard the insta-mom news yet. And then I get the message that I have gotten before, "My girlfriend said no." This has happened before, with more than just one person. I just bid my friend a good day and said it's cool; even though I feel a twinge of pain in my chest, my eyes burn and my face feels unusually warm.
|Okay well maybe not that much of a twinge.|
This is the second time in the last month that my balloon has been deflated. A while back I called my best friend, who never called me back. I guess the lady of the moment is not too keen on me either (the previous one was also not a fan). A few months ago we had made plans to meet up because he lived out of town and was going to be in town visiting. I was on my way to meet him and he called it off because of the lady friend. Then said he had a few minutes to chat, so I turned my car around to go meet him. It was really hurtful and I got roughly 5 minutes in the parking lot to chat. I was able to finally give him the gift I brought him back from Germany over a year ago. I sent him a text a few weeks ago to ask a question about a show we had gone to that I wanted to blog about, no reply. At this point I am not going to try, though it may not be his choice, a one-sided friendship is no friendship at all.
As for my friend that can't see me today, oh well. I guess I will just have to put the friendship on the shelf just like several others. I don't understood people that need control to the point of alienating people from old time friends. I had experienced that type of nightmarish relationship once and never again. As for my bestie, I was there before the current lady and the one before that as his friend; when he is ready I will still be here. And I hope I get to see my friend before she leaves the country again but I won't hold my breath.
Friendships will fail if it's only one person trying hard to keep it together.
- Ritu Ghatourey